Recent studies have started to shed light on how depression and suppressed feelings are linked in our consciousness. Often, episodes of childhood neglect and contradictory emotional stimulus cause us to suppress our feelings. For example, when we are children and we start to argue with a sibling over a toy, being told to “be quiet, be good, don’t be selfish” are statements that disregard our feelings and require us to suppress our feelings of injustice or anger.
While the requests to be quiet, good and sharing are generally accepted as “good” characteristics, they ignore the underling feelings and causes of our pain. They ask us to bury feelings and to hide our emotions. Over time, these actions cause children to become withdrawn and lose self-confidence.
Later in life, this response that was learned as a child causes us to cover up pain and takes away your ability to express or process emotions. It causes us to reflect and second guess decisions or conversations but never to address our emotional reactions. That continued denial of self and the associated pain of hiding our emotions is exhausting.
Learning to process these emotions can help people release a large amount of hidden stress. With less stress and the ability to cope with emotions. people are finding their way out of a cycle of depression that has kept them trapped. If you are experiencing a cycle of depression, take the time to talk with your therapist and try to release some of these healthy, but suppressed emotions.